Grandueric Illusions

Miles and Miles To Go Before I Sleep

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selfcareafterrape:

The Basics:
What is Rape?/Types of Rape.
Common Responses to Rape/Sexual Assault(ppt)
Traumaversaries
Why You Aren’t Bad for Loving Your Abuser.
How to Talk About Trauma:
Talking About Trauma (ppt)
Talking About Trauma (to others)
What if they don’t believe me?
Need Help With:
Sleep
Nightmares
Surviving the Holidays (ppt)
Overstimulated Nerves
Self-Injury (ppt)
Flashbacks (ppt)
Dissociating (ppt)
Making Peace With the Emotion Monster
On Holding Anger for Attackers
Disordered Eating, What it is and What you can do about it.
Admitting Weakness
Suicidal Ideation
Hygiene.
Regression
Triggers:
I’m triggered- Now What?
More On Triggers
On Purposely Triggering Yourself
Boundaries:
Boundaries (ppt)
Boundaries 101
Boundaries: How to set them
Self-Care:
What is Self Care Anyway?
BACE Method
Self Care When You Lack a Sense of Self
Interpersonal Self-Care
Emotional Self Care
Physical Self Care
How to Do Self Care When You Only Have A Little Bit of Time
Consent/sex:
Intimacy After Rape
Lets Talk Consent
Lets Talk Sex
Sexuality After Rape
For Friends/Family/Partners of Survivors:
How to Help a Friend Who Has Been Raped.(ppt)
Avoiding Awkward- How to talk about rape when we talk to survivors.(ppt)
Sometimes the easiest thing to say is the worst.
Being Family/Friends isn’t an excuse.
A Friend is Self Harming (ppt)
Comfort In. Complain Out.
What Can I Do?
A Friend is Dissociating.(ppt)
Reality Checks

selfcareafterrape:

The Basics:

What is Rape?/Types of Rape.

Common Responses to Rape/Sexual Assault(ppt)

Traumaversaries

Why You Aren’t Bad for Loving Your Abuser.

How to Talk About Trauma:

Talking About Trauma (ppt)

Talking About Trauma (to others)

What if they don’t believe me?

Need Help With:

Sleep

Nightmares

Surviving the Holidays (ppt)

Overstimulated Nerves

Self-Injury (ppt)

Flashbacks (ppt)

Dissociating (ppt)

Making Peace With the Emotion Monster

On Holding Anger for Attackers

Disordered Eating, What it is and What you can do about it.

Admitting Weakness

Suicidal Ideation

Hygiene.

Regression

Triggers:

I’m triggered- Now What?

More On Triggers

On Purposely Triggering Yourself

Boundaries:

Boundaries (ppt)

Boundaries 101

Boundaries: How to set them

Self-Care:

What is Self Care Anyway?

BACE Method

Self Care When You Lack a Sense of Self

Interpersonal Self-Care

Emotional Self Care

Physical Self Care

How to Do Self Care When You Only Have A Little Bit of Time

Consent/sex:

Intimacy After Rape

Lets Talk Consent

Lets Talk Sex

Sexuality After Rape

For Friends/Family/Partners of Survivors:

How to Help a Friend Who Has Been Raped.(ppt)

Avoiding Awkward- How to talk about rape when we talk to survivors.(ppt)

Sometimes the easiest thing to say is the worst.

Being Family/Friends isn’t an excuse.

A Friend is Self Harming (ppt)

Comfort In. Complain Out.

What Can I Do?

A Friend is Dissociating.(ppt)

Reality Checks

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Lay in bed. Watch life happen from your window. Sleep with a pile of a magazines instead of a person because magazines can’t forget to call you back the next day. Hold your cell phone limply in your hand with your head in the pillows. Feel a combination of excitement and dread when somebody texts you. Leave me alone slash NEVER STOP. You know what I’m talking about.

Become the unreliable friend. Let people know implicitly that they need to minimize their expectations to avoid being disappointed. You will do things when you want to do them. You will show up when you want to show up. You can’t handle any responsibility right now. Please respect the fact that you’re a terrible person right now.

Show up to work in a zombielike state. Do the bare minimum of work so people don’t necessarily worry about you. They just think you’re lazy. Mimic healthy happy people. Maybe that will throw people off your true scent. Maybe if you attend a potluck and bring egg salad, people will write you off as someone who has their shit together.

See things you’re not supposed to, like an ex’s Facebook page. An old diary. Wince at the photos, wince at the images, and decide that you would look at them again.

Ignore those who know you best because those are the people who won’t let you get away with anything. Those are the people who will force you to be accountable and demand that you tell them what’s wrong with you.

It gets harder and harder to disappear from your life. When you were a teenager, it was easy to check out from reality, but today is different. Today your life is formed; it has been built. When you decide to go, you are leaving behind a series of questions. You are leaving a mess that you will eventually have to clean up.

But if you really want to disappear, you will find a way. People always do. You can’t make someone participate in a life they didn’t want to begin with. They have to do it for themselves. They have to want to fix their life rather than ruin it. And you know something? Not everybody wants to fix it. Not everybody wants to have redemption. Some people are just content to waste away. We’re taught differently. We’re taught that everybody wants the best life they could possibly have. But I’m here to tell you that that’s not true. I’m here to tell you that everybody doesn’t want or get their happy ending. You’d like them to because it makes things simpler for you, it puts your mind at ease. But you forget that all of this isn’t for you. It’s for them. TC Mark

How To Ruin Your Life: Ryan O’Connell (via euo)

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